As most of you all know I live in Plano Illinois now. And as most of you know I live with my boyfriend. (and if you didn’t know you do now… ☺) Go ahead and say what you have to say because I guarantee that I have heard it and more than once. I made this decision and I’m not ashamed of it. People say I’ve changed and they’re right I have, but don’t we all? The only difference now is that I am not near anyone so you can’t see it. It’s like when you are a parent you don’t really notice that your child is getting bigger, you know they are but you don’t see the changes like grandparents or friends do. Maybe I am making the worst mistake in the world, but as I have told my parents I will have to deal with the consequence then.
I love where I am. I love what I do. I just love life. I love being with Chris. I never thought that I could love someone so much and them love me so much more. I didn’t know that I could argue with someone so much and in the end love them more. I wouldn’t trade him for anything. I love my house, I love my car, I love my dogs, and I love my boyfriend!
The only thing that is frustrating is people thinking that by telling me I am making a big mistake that I am going to change my mind. I can guarantee you that I am not going to change my mind.
I’m coming back to Cincinnati soon so if you want to get together let me know! ☺
My puppy Toby.
17 comments:
Kalla,
Someone telling you you're making a mistake means that that particular someone can see the future. And, as much as I love a good story about prophecy, I doubt God is handing out a lot "Kalla's Future" visions in his spare time.
People can, however, share with you what their experience has been, in the hopes that they can save you from undue suffering. You may be making a mistake, you may not...this may turn out to be the best decision of your life. Who knows? All others can do is tell you where they've been and what they've done and what hurt the most, in the hopes that you won't step on the same landmines they did. Maybe those landmines will be there for you...maybe those landmines were just for that person...again, who knows? But only a truly selfish person watches someone he/she cares about walk into something that looks like a minefield to him/her, and doesn't yell for your safety.
Annoying to hear? Probably. If they're judging you, telling you you're "falling away," looking down on you, making guesses as to your morality or spirituality...then they're probably missing the point, and that's annoying. But if they're voicing a genuine concern for your well-being because they've made mistakes they don't want you to have to make...then Jesus, let 'em love you that way. You don't have to follow their advice or warnings...but to not hear them as love for you because you're feeling defensive is to miss some of the most honest love you're likely to get from your friends in your lifetime.
Good for you. Go find your path. Marry him, or don't...live in Plano or don't...just don't disregard honest love. It's a rare commodity.
Peace,
Justin
I don't know what you are talking about chicka....that don't look like no puppy to me!!!
haha!
Miss you Asshoooolllle!!!!
hunny call me!!! I want to see you when you come home!!! 513-289-0369
Kalla,
I can't wait until I get to see you...3 months is way too long to be apart!
Well said, Justin.
Don't worry about people questioning your choices. They are exactly that, your choices. Not theirs. The point is, your friends, should support you no matter what your choices are, even if they think they are bad or wrong. Thats part of what Love is.
hey girl,
hope you are doing well and all ;) looks like a lot of changes have come your way recently!
Nayt,
If your friend decided to start smoking crack, you would stand aside and let them make that decision? After all, you love them.
anyone who has observed you for longer than five minutes should realize you're generally going to do the exact opposite of what everyone's shoving down your throat. and the harder they push-the further you're going to go. what those peeps need to realize is that they do not, know everything. despite their annointings and Biblical references and on and on and on and on. i'm sure that anyone whose jumping at you seems to be unable to carry on a conversation with you about anything other than this situation, and i realize that can be soooo infuriating. maybe they'll grow up and realize they can't control everything, and that there is so much more to you than the fact that you live with some dude out in Illinois. and, yes, there will certainly be consequences for your choices-all of us have them. and sometimes peopls intervening isn't really because they're concerned, sometimes they do just want to prove that they're right and know what they're talking about. they forget, though---love is an ACTION. not an emotion, not necessarily a support system of each choice we make. LOVE IS AN ACTION. and don't you forget that either beautiful gal.
so good to hear an update from you!
Anonymous,
I just want to say that just because we may not agree with what Kalla is doing, that does not mean that we cannot have normal conversations with Kalla. As her sister I talk to her regularly, about the situation--I am honest with her and share my concerns--but I am also able to talk to her about her daily life-including things with Chris-and about my own daily life.
Kalla,
It's so hard to live your life to please everyone in every realtionship that you have. You can't. However, there is one relationship that should matter more than any other. These things you know. Not a day goes by when I wish I had spent more time with KT. Heaven knows her life worked out great, but God redeemed her sitution. I love you like my own flesha and blood and I'm not telling you anything I didn't tell her. Of course I'll accept your decision and I'd love to meet Chris when you're home, just know that there comes a time when we have to dig deep and wonder if we are trying to beat the odds. Kiddo, ask Kate, it's hard. I love you So much! Call me
what did that puppy ever do to deserve one of this sickening choke collars with the prongs?!
-dh
Oh my goodness don't freak out... he wears it so he listens. I could put a shock collar on him will that make you feel better??
"he wears it so he liestens"-are you freaking serious? is he incapable of listening otherwise?
-debbie (the blog surfer)
while i understand what you're saying...i sure as hell would hate to see how your children have to learn english!
debbie
it was so incredibly awesome to see you (and give you the biggest hug ever :) this weekend... i love you!
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